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Sometimes issues happen in your life that makes the drama on the blogosphere seem so… insignificant.

My grandfather is deteriorating of Alzheimer’s, as many of you blogreaders here who take the time to come visit here are aware. I’ve been rather open about it.. because I believe venting -even if its online and through typing- helps rather then just keeping it sealed up inside. I had a call from my Mom last night. A late call…10 pm or so. My parents do not call that late on any night – let alone a Sunday night – unless there’s some news to be shared.

She was calling about Grandpa. His actions have been getting more… unpredictable. He is now getting up at night and wandering.. and often in an angry state, for no reason. He thinks none of his family dont want to visit him – which isnt true. My mom and my aunts and my step-grandmother’s family have been trying to visit him and her as much and as often as possible.

I found out some other stuff that he’s been buying and sending money away for.. stuff that everyone else knows are scams.. and ones he claims to ignore. .but he hasnt. I guess there is a meeting next Friday to try and stop some payments from happenning. Mom isnt looking forward to that. (I hold scammers who take advantage of elderly people and particularly ones with this dreadful disease in the highest contempt possible).

However.. what got to me was that apparently in one of his lucid moments.. he asked mom to take some family albums and family histories he’s collected over the years, and to give them to me. I’ve been the “family historian” and genealogist of the family, and I got that interest from both my deceased Great-Aunt (his sister) and him. He was still well enough to remember that on Sunday afternoon, and he told my mom that he knew I wouldn’t throw any of these family histories he’s collected out, if I got them.. so… in essence.. he wanted me to have them before something happened to him. I think he knows he’s not well.. even if he wont come out and admit it.

My mom described what he gave to her – and without going into boring detail.. its family history on the extended family and on the house he grew up in and other things I’d never in all my years of researching the family even knew he had. He also had my great-grandfather’s memoirs. My mom was astounded.. and I was honoured and touched that he wanted to give them to me.. and I’m thankful he was still able to remember . I cant wait to see what he has given her.. and he apparently hasn’t given everything he collected to her yet – Mom promised to come back and get some more. I value our family history a lot. Its more precious to me then money or any other material possession I might deem to have. I’m still kind of emotional as I type this and recall the moment as I heard what he had wanted to happen.

Anyhow, I’ve been preoccupied with that on my mind. Other stuff that has been going on.. I hope you’ll forgive me if I’m not exactly considering them at the moment – or not as top priority anyhow. There are others who are just as capable who can handle it.

My thoughts are at home right now… not on the blogosphere.

PS – Remember the Alzheimer’s Society of Canada and consider donating to them.

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9 comments to Real Life Issues

  • Tjeerd

    My Dad had the disease for 10 years before he died. It was awful.
    My mother taught me what true love and grace was all about with the care she gave him. May God be with you.
    Tjeerd

  • Scott,

    I hope things get better, I’m thinking of you.

    XX

  • Alzheimer’s is a very difficult thing. My deepest condolences.

  • Jan Johnstone

    Scott, real life has a way of pin pointing was is truely important, the rest of the stuff, well really it is just white noise. Your grandpa is quite aware that he is losing it, but to admit it takes away his independence, or so he thinks. In fact the illness, as you well know, will rob him of his independence. It’s wonderful that he gave you his memoirs and so on. Of course you will treasure them. At the end of the day, it is your family and close friends who will there. Take care and rest easy.

  • My grandfather died from Alzheimer’s when I was in University. Relish the good memories buddy.

  • JF

    And your thoughts are in the right place.

    I’m sorry to hear that, I sincerely wish you all courage to face the pains that come from an ill family member.

  • I’m so sorry to hear that. All the best to you and your family.

  • *hugs* and warm wishes from Steeltown—GDK

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